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Once an angry, violent, control freak, now a follower of Daoism.

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The goal of achieving zero domestic violence deaths demands an overhaul of the Family Violence Intervention Program. These programs seem to prioritize generating income for the state and the programs over producing long-term change in the behavior and beliefs of perpetrators.

In the absence of a more robust commitment to sustainable transformation, the risk of violence escalation remains high. Research indicates that over 90% of domestic violence fatalities are perpetrated by individuals who have been through the system. This is a tragic failure for the victims. How many lives could we spare if we could discover ways to foster positive growth among those in the program?

Statistic from 2018 Georgia Domestic Violence Fatality Report
Domestic Violence Programs are Broken

Domestic violence is a pervasive problem that affects millions of women worldwide. Shockingly, nine out of ten women who are killed in a domestic violence-related homicide are by people who came through a domestic violence program. This statistic is a sobering reminder of the need to address the root causes of domestic violence and provide support to victims to prevent future tragic incidents.

One of the main arguments for this statistic is that domestic violence programs are often designed to address the symptoms of domestic violence rather than the underlying causes. These programs may provide temporary shelter, legal assistance, and counseling, but they often fail to address the root causes of domestic violence, such as toxic masculinity, gender inequality, and patriarchal attitudes.

Another argument is that domestic violence programs may inadvertently provide abusers with tools and techniques to further harm their victims. For example, an abuser may attend a counseling session and learn how to manipulate or gaslight their victim more effectively. They may also learn how to avoid getting caught or punished for their abusive behavior.

Moreover, domestic violence programs may not adequately screen abusers to ensure that they are not a danger to themselves or others. This lack of screening can result in abusers who are not truly committed to changing their behavior or who are actively seeking ways to harm their victims.

To address this alarming statistic, we need to focus on prevention and education. We must address the root causes of domestic violence, such as toxic masculinity and gender inequality, and provide support and resources to victims. We also need to screen abusers thoroughly and hold them accountable for their actions.

In conclusion, the statistic that nine out of ten women who are killed in a domestic violence-related homicide are by people who came through a domestic violence program is a stark reminder of the urgent need to address the root causes of domestic violence and provide support to victims. We must work together to prevent future tragedies and create a world where everyone can live free from violence and fear.

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